Modest Clothing Shopping: Don’t Do It Alone

Shopping for modest clothing with a buddy isn’t just fun—it could save your wardrobe. You could be one layering shirt or modest accessory away from total fashion disaster, but not if your trusty shopping buddy is there with you.

Most of us know that it’s helpful to have a friend when we hit the mall. For example, I’m a hemming-and-hawing shopper, so I need my sister with me to give me the push to actually buy something. And a good SB (Shopping Buddy)—will always answer honestly when you ask, “Does this look good on me?”

But shopping for modest clothing is extra tricky. Often, we modest dressers are creating outfits of our own design. We see an amazing sleeveless dress, just perfect for [insert name of occasion, or just day of the week, here] and we decide to “modest-ize it” by pairing it with a layering shirt underneath. Or, hmmm….would it look better with a cute cardigan on top? SB to the rescue. And because that sleeveless dress was meant to be, well, sleeveless, we’re never quite sure if the colors coordinate, if we’re “pulling off” the look. But your SB—she’ll tell you if you’re rockin’ it…or not.

Then there’s the adorable V-neck sweater with a plunging neckline. Would the black tank top look better underneath? Or the white tank top? Your SB can help you decide.

Long Tank Top

Long Tank Top


There are more and more websites out there that cater to the modest dresser. You can buy an adorable sweater without a plunging neckline. Or an amazing dress with sleeves. But we don’t want to confine ourselves to only “modest clothing” stores, wonderful as they are. We want the freedom to buy clothing from any store in the world and turn it into something we can wear, modestly and confidently.

So we stock up on bolero jackets, tank tops, cardigans and layering shirts of all shapes and sizes, to create our own “modestly modern” wardrobe. A good SB helps you find those perfect layering pieces, or a hey-I-never-would-have-thought-of-that-but-it-looks-amazing outfit.

Saving your wardrobe, one tank top at a time.

What about you? Are you a go-it-alone shopper? Or do you believe, like I do, that two shopping heads are better than one?

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6 Responses to “Modest Clothing Shopping: Don’t Do It Alone”

  1. Rosia Frazier says:

    I disagree, wholeheartedly. At least for us fashionistas in America, as most American women dress poorly. Just ask European women. We have far too many choices and not enough direction in the States. Therefore, SB’s wind up being ‘the blind leading the blind’. As a woman of faith, I am tired of seeing frumpy other women of faith. The way we dress is our witness to the world. See Proverbs. What woman WANTS to be frumpy? We must have what others want, not what they abhor, in order to reach the lost. Not enough of us have fashion and style training ‘from the world’, and that coupled with the need to be discreet/modest is usually and often a disaster.

    As a woman of faith who used to be ‘in the world’ and received much training in the art of fashion, I find that the best way to ‘rock’ any outfit, is to study the fashion mags, determine your “own” style, and then create a discreet look using classic pieces as your guide. Not all colors work for every woman as well as not all fabrics and cuts. That will limit us. But as all things of faith, you can allow that to make you bitter and rebellious or you can become more faithful through your creativity. It is all about perspective, and not necessarily the perspective of your SB.

  2. Sara says:

    What do you disagree with?

  3. amanda says:

    My husband goes shopping with me. At first, this really irritated me. Then I realized that, since he’s the only person I have to please, this is a great idea. He is more detailed and finds things easily. Most of my female friends don’t care about modesty, so my husband is my best shopping buddy, even if it’s not always fun!

  4. Chris says:

    PLEASE expand your size range to us larger ladies in the plus sizes; even just 16, 18, 20 would be VERY helpful. Also, do you have a suggestion for swimwear (must do water exercise for health reasons)? Thanks!

  5. Natalie says:

    I love this post! It is so true! I never just “look” at clothing in a store, I am always imagining how to take something very immodest and make it a viable modest option. Moms are perfect help with this :)

  6. Latasha says:

    I agree with the SB idea. As I attempt to dress more modestly I can see how another set of eyes would be helpful. For those who are new to dressing modestly, how does one find this buddy if their current friends aren’t in a modest mindset?

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